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Ask Amy: How can I forgive myself for this long-ago mistake?

Published Thu, 20 Feb 2025 11:30:34 GMT

Dear Amy: Twenty years ago, I had an affair that ended my marriage (after 15 years together).I am extremely remorseful and even though I have apologized to my ex (and he has forgiven me), I can’t seem to forgive myself.The phrase “once a cheater always a cheater” just plays on an endless loop in my head.I hate myself for betraying a man who was nothing but kind toward me. I honestly feel like if I forgive myself, it’s like saying that what I did was OK.I also feel like a huge hypocrite when conversations with friends turn to infidelity. My closest friends know what I did, but not everyone, so I feel like if I chime in on that topic about how wrong I think it is (because now I know better!) I am just lying to everyone.I feel obligated to disclose what a horrible person I was and not play some charade as if I would never do something like that.If I somehow do manage to forgive myself, isn’t this just me saying to everyone that what I did was OK, when it’s not?Will I ever get past this...

Harriette Cole: How can I get my co-workers to let me go out with them?

Published Thu, 20 Feb 2025 11:30:34 GMT

DEAR HARRIETTE: I have always been an outsider, and not by choice. It just seems to happen.Related ArticlesAdvice | Harriette Cole: I’m forgetting chunks of time, and my husband says it’s no big deal Advice | Harriette Cole: I had an idea for a video, and it showed up under her name Advice | Harriette Cole: She should be happy about the breakup, but she’s drinking and skipping work Advice | Harriette Cole: Our hometown is talking. How can I help her without getting sullied by scandal? Advice | Harriette Cole: My neighbor won’t listen to what I’m saying about the dog I started a job this year where I thought it might be different. We all go into the office, and on many occasions a group of people my age go out after work for drinks or whatever they do. They have never invited me.I’m kind of shy, so I haven’t gotten up the courage to ask to go. I do talk to them wh...

Coach of San Jose Sharks’ AHL team said player who claimed he felt pressured to fight never raised issue

Published Thu, 20 Feb 2025 11:30:34 GMT

SAN JOSE – The head coach of the San Jose Sharks’ AHL affiliate said an exit meeting with forward Martin Kaut, who said he felt pressured to fight by one of the minor league teams’ coaches, actually ended on a positive note with no indication that the 2018 first-round draft pick was unhappy.John McCarthy, a former Sharks forward who is entering his second season as the San Jose Barracuda’s coach, said Kaut didn’t raise any issues with him during his brief time with the team or after the season ended in April.“That’s the strange part is the end of the year meeting was very positive,” McCarthy said Wednesday, “and there was zero contention or complaints on anything along those lines. So, it’s unfortunate.”Kaut, 23, told the Czech website iDNES.cz in a story published in July that an unnamed Barracuda coach would choose an opponent, usually a fellow Czech-born player, before each game for him to fight. When Kaut refused, he said the coach responded by saying tha...

Companies Already Ban the Use of Their Drugs for Lethal Injection. Now They’re Blocking IV Equipment.

Published Thu, 20 Feb 2025 11:30:34 GMT

Medical equipment manufacturers are refusing to sell their products for use in lethal injection, The Intercept has learned. The stance could further hinder states’ ability to carry out death sentences at a time when similar restrictions have limited access to drugs.The four companies that have raised objections are Baxter International Inc., B. Braun Medical Inc., Fresenius Kabi, and Johnson & Johnson. In addition to manufacturing drugs, they make IV catheters, syringes, medical tubing, and IV bags, products states rely on to administer lethal injection. In statements to The Intercept, the companies said that the use of their equipment in executions contradicts their values.“Johnson & Johnson develops medical innovations to save and enhance lives,” Joshina Kapoor, a spokesperson for Johnson & Johnson, wrote in an email. “We do not condone the use of our products for lethal injections for capital punishment.”Fresenius Kabi, a German company that specializes in IV devices,...

South Africa’s Malcolm Marx out of Rugby World Cup with long-term knee injury

Published Thu, 20 Feb 2025 11:30:34 GMT

TOULON, South Africa (AP) — South Africa hooker Malcolm Marx was ruled out of the remainder of the Rugby World Cup on Thursday with what the team described as a long-term knee injury.Marx sustained the injury in a training session on Wednesday, the Springboks said.It’s a big blow to the defending champions’ chances of retaining their title in France, with Marx one of the form players in the team.South Africa has just one other specialist hooker in the squad in Bongi Mbonambi, who was selected to captain a second-string Springboks team against Romania on Sunday.However, South Africa also selected 36-year-old utility forward Deon Fourie in its squad, who can play hooker as well as his most recent position of flanker.Coach Jacques Nienaber said Thursday that loose forward Marco van Staden also had previous experience as a hooker and might be called on to cover that position.“We have enough cover at hooker with Bongi (Mbonambi) and Deon (Fourie) in the squad, while Marco (va...

Break out the dirndl and lederhosen! Oktoberfest returns to The Wharf

Published Thu, 20 Feb 2025 11:30:34 GMT

toggle audio on and off change volume download audio WTOP's Jason Fraley previews Oktoberfest at The Wharf (Part 1) $(function () { $('.wtop-audio-container .fa-play').on('click', function(){ var audio_filename = $('div.wtop-audio-file').data("mp3-url"); ga('send', 'event', 'Audio', 'play', audio_filename); }); }); It’s that time of year again where D.C. breaks out the dirndl and lederhosen as The Wharf hosts Oktoberfest on the Southwest Waterfront from Sept. 15-17.“In attendance, we run about 6,000 people [per] day,” programming director Jennifer Curry told WTOP. “We’ve expanded the footprint...

Mets bring 2-1 series advantage over Diamondbacks into game 4

Published Thu, 20 Feb 2025 11:30:34 GMT

Arizona Diamondbacks (76-71, second in the NL West) vs. New York Mets (67-78, fourth in the NL East)New York; Thursday, 4:10 p.m. EDTPITCHING PROBABLES: Diamondbacks: Merrill Kelly (11-6, 3.27 ERA, 1.19 WHIP, 165 strikeouts); Mets: Kodai Senga (10-7, 3.07 ERA, 1.23 WHIP, 181 strikeouts)FANDUEL SPORTSBOOK MLB LINE: Mets -121, Diamondbacks +102; over/under is 7 1/2 runsBOTTOM LINE: The New York Mets host the Arizona Diamondbacks, leading the series 2-1.New York has a 67-78 record overall and a 37-34 record at home. The Mets have the ninth-ranked team on-base percentage in the NL at .318.Arizona has a 38-36 record on the road and a 76-71 record overall. The Diamondbacks have the sixth-ranked team slugging percentage in the NL at .414.Thursday’s game is the seventh meeting between these teams this season. The Mets have a 5-1 advantage in the season series.TOP PERFORMERS: Pete Alonso leads New York with 44 home runs while slugging .532. DJ Stewart is 11-for-37 with five home runs a...

Brewers meet the Marlins with 2-1 series lead

Published Thu, 20 Feb 2025 11:30:34 GMT

Miami Marlins (75-71, third in the NL East) vs. Milwaukee Brewers (81-64, first in the NL Central)Milwaukee; Thursday, 2:10 p.m. EDTPITCHING PROBABLES: Marlins: Eury Perez (5-4, 2.90 ERA, 1.09 WHIP, 99 strikeouts); Brewers: Adrian Houser (0-0)FANDUEL SPORTSBOOK MLB LINE: Marlins -116, Brewers -104; over/under is 8 1/2 runsBOTTOM LINE: The Milwaukee Brewers lead 2-1 in a four-game series with the Miami Marlins.Milwaukee has a 42-29 record at home and an 81-64 record overall. The Brewers have gone 52-19 in games when they record eight or more hits.Miami is 35-39 on the road and 75-71 overall. The Marlins have a 47-8 record in games when they scored five or more runs.The teams match up Thursday for the fourth time this season.TOP PERFORMERS: William Contreras has 33 doubles, a triple, 15 home runs and 70 RBI for the Brewers. Mark Canha is 13-for-34 with two doubles and two home runs over the last 10 games.Luis Arraez leads the Marlins with a .349 batting average, and has 29 doubles, th...

Pirates meet the Nationals with 2-1 series lead

Published Thu, 20 Feb 2025 11:30:34 GMT

Washington Nationals (65-81, fifth in the NL East) vs. Pittsburgh Pirates (68-78, fourth in the NL Central)Pittsburgh; Thursday, 12:35 p.m. EDTPITCHING PROBABLES: Nationals: Josiah Gray (7-11, 4.13 ERA, 1.50 WHIP, 122 strikeouts); Pirates: Mitch Keller (11-9, 4.23 ERA, 1.29 WHIP, 191 strikeouts)FANDUEL SPORTSBOOK MLB LINE: Pirates -164, Nationals +140; over/under is 8 1/2 runsBOTTOM LINE: The Pittsburgh Pirates host the Washington Nationals, leading the series 2-1.Pittsburgh is 68-78 overall and 36-38 at home. The Pirates have a 44-10 record in games when they scored five or more runs.Washington is 65-81 overall and 34-38 on the road. The Nationals have a 24-14 record in games when they hit two or more home runs.The matchup Thursday is the seventh meeting between these teams this season. The Pirates hold a 4-2 advantage in the season series.TOP PERFORMERS: Bryan Reynolds has a .272 batting average to lead the Pirates, and has 31 doubles, five triples and 21 home runs. Ke’Bryan...

Death investigation underway following possible electrocution in NW Miami-Dade

Published Thu, 20 Feb 2025 11:30:34 GMT

Miami-Dade Police officers and fire rescue crews responded to a neighborhood in Northwest Miami-Dade after a person was found dead near a cement truck lot following reports of a possible electrocution. The incident occurred on Thursday morning at 830 NW 73rd St. after a loud boom was reported. Although it is not clear what occurred, initial calls were received about an electrocution in the area. As a result of this incident, the power went out temporarily in the vicinity. Florida Light & Power officials were also on the scene as they investigated the outage that has reportedly affected 1,496 customers. Live video footage showed the body, covered by a yellow tarp, near the lot and water leaking from a nearby building. Police officers on the scene said there appeared to be an electrical issue in the neighborhood. Commuters in the area are urged to avoid Northwest 73rd Street near Northwest Seventh Avenue as authorities have blocked off the street to investigate the situation. Offi...